This TED video by Esther Perel really helps us understand why partner dancing can be so valuable to your love life.
I’m sure you will enjoy the whole video, here are some of the highlights.
1. We adore each other from a few inches away, not as much when we are touching tightly as in sex.
2. We desire each other when we see the other person enjoying themselves and mastering what they are doing.
3. We desire each other when we are away from each other, this happens when you change partners while social dancing.
4. We desire each other when we experience other people, also when you are partner dancing.
5. The monogamous male female relationship has evolved to require a lot of our partners, dancing can help simplify these roles and provide many of them in one experience: safety and adventure, caring and creativity, touch and distance, alone time and community time.
I really feel more and more that social partner dancing is really valuable to a healthy culture. What do you think? Feel free to leave your comments below.
Set fire to the rain by Adele is a great song for many styles of social partner dancing.
In this week’s social ballroom dance video Dawn and I dance West Coast Swing, Cha Cha, Argentine Tango and Rumba.
You will probably hear this song at the next wedding or gala you attend and now you can learn how to dance to it.
Dawn and I had a great time dancing to three live swing bands at the Dance Flurry this past weekend. We love seeing our swing dance friends from around the Northeast here in our home town.
If you are interested in a dance weekend full of new surprises and experiences you must attend the Dance Flurry.
It’s live music all weekend even during the hundreds of dance lessons. Dancers love it, musicians love it and it keep the traditions of many historical dances alive for new generations to enjoy!
Dawn and I dance Merengue, Cha Cha, Hustle and West Coast Swing to Don’t Stop the Party by Pitbull. You can dance like this by visiting our website and checking out our videos on how to ballroom dance.
In this video we dance a Merengue, 4 count Hustle because the song is pretty fast for 3 count Hustle at 127 beats per minute, Cha Cha and West Coast Swing. We start with simple dance patterns and get more advanced.
This is social partner dancing not professional show or competition dancing. We are dancing lead and follow which means she does not know the steps I am going to lead until I lead them. This the style of dancing that is mostly enjoyed by millions of Americans. Very few people do competition ballroom dancing.
If you feel like you are too tired to go dancing I know how you feel. Yet, every time I go dancing as soon as I hit the dance floor I feel alive, excited and full of energy. The music starts to energize me, the woman in my arms smiles at me. After a night of dancing, that is sometimes only an hour or two, I sleep much better and am ready to have a fun productive day the next day.
So I challenge you to get off the couch and head out to your local ballroom dance. You will feel better as soon as you get there.
I know you may not know how to dance or don’t have a dance partner. We will cover those topics in future episodes of the daily dance video blog.
Here is my theory on why many more women dance then men in American culture. Men have spent most of history working side by side. Women spend their time face to face. Women are more comfortable being face to face.Men here is our chance to evolve. Learn to dance and you will.
Motion and emotion are connected in our bodies, brains and feelings. Dancing is a perfect way to harmonize all three aspects of our being. Dance motion releases stuck emotion and creates the opportunity for new emotion.
For instance, when you frown (motion) you feel the emotion of sadness. When the muscles in your lips are in a smile you feel happiness.
When your shoulders are hunched forward or your eyes are looking down (motion) you are sad. When you open your chest and look up you are happy.
Dancing is a great way to training your body to be in happy positions.
Music strongly influences our emotions and therefore our motions. Music moves us both emotionally and motionally (not sure if that is a word but I like it better than physically in this instance).
I am not saying you always have to be happy. I am saying if you want to be happier try dancing.
Today I turned 38 years old. It’s time to figure out what I want to do when I grow up!
This year I am going to focus on telling the story of social partner dancing and how it transforms lives, relationships and cultures.
I am committing myself to a daily video blog called Want Romance Learn to Dance. Here is the first episode. Enjoy!
I love social partner dancing because I can be creative, social and sexy all at the same time. I think I am popular with the ladies because I make them feel good when I am dancing with them.
Did you ever talk with someone and not feel so good afterward? We all have. With proper leading and following communication skills we can all have better interactions and feel better about life.
What I am talking about is rapport. Observing the other person’s posture, tone and listening for what is important to them. When this happens in social partner dancing its like magic.
Here are some of my favorite west coast swing dance videos of people in rapport with each other. Check out how one leader, Ben Morris, creates rapport with several different ladies.
Let me set the stage for you a little bit more. These are videos from a Jack n’ Jill dance competition. When you enter the competition you don’t know who you partner is going to be or what music will be played! The winning couple is the couple that creates the best vibe by being in rapport with each other.
Hot Help Tip #4: Relationships are like dancing, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow.
I often hear people using the analogy you have to dance with “this” or dance with “that” when they are talking about working with a situation that is challenging. It is true in all communications we give and receive. If we take out the thought of what can I get from this situation and simply be present and aware of what the other person is communicating, life feels better.